Hey ArouraD- sorry you're having a bad time w/ Android. I would recommended:
1) RDS lite/ .SBF to froyo flash.
2) when you activate the phone do not use Google's personal data/ setting restore feature. (Sorry I can't remember the exact wording)
3) enter your VZ sync password, then DO NOT add any more accounts beside your Google account. You want the phone to not have anything to do besides get your market squared away.
4) open your settings. Get to the battery manager, itstarts in 'night time saver's mode. Change it to 'performence mode' so you get the cuffs taken off your data radios. Change it back if you want when you're done. Also check the data settings, make sure you have the cuffs off your data useage too.
5) conect to wifi, then goto the market. Go to my apps.
You should see a bunch of them promiseing to install. Here's the hard part- put your phone down and leave it alone for a half hour. They should have begun actually installing. If not- you have to toto to each program in the my apps area, canceled the download, then restart it. PITA for sure, but it worked for me. This problem is w/ Google transport service and seems to be fixed in gingerbread. If you want to avoid this ordeal in the future, get titanium backup. Used right, it doesn't just re-install apps, but the data too- so you get your gun bros save state next time you fire it up. I dropped the $5 for the pro version and I can "freeze" all the services/programs that run, take up memory that I never use (car home sound familiar?)
Good luck, let us know if you have more problems.