Welcome to the forum to both of you. Hopefully we can help get you happy with your razr's again. There are a couple things you can try that have been successful for people that had problems with ICS. The first was posted earlier today here...
http://www.droidforums.net/forum/dr...iscussion/216763-bugs-ics-ota-faults-fix.html
I tried this out of curiosity and it will not make any noticeable changes to your settings or apps. The steps I followed were...
1. Turn off phone.
2. Press volume up + Volume down + Power all at the same time to get to the HBOOT screen.
3. Volume down to "Recovery"
4. Volume up to select "recovery" which will bring you to the android guy with a triangle and exclamation point.
5. Press all at the same time: volume up, volume down and power.
6. Volume down to "wipe cache partition" and select using power button.
7. When done, select "reboot system" using power button.
Keep in mind that you have installed an operating system (ICS) over an operating system (gingerbread) and it is likely that they will have conflicts with each other. The same as if you installed windows 7 over vista on your pc. If the above does not solve your problems, the next best thing is to do is a factory data reset (fdr). That has worked for most everyone and many that avoided it at all costs ended up very happy that they finally did. It will take you 2 to 5 hours to get your apps and settings back to what you had but it will save you days of trying every other fix to no avail.
Before doing the fdr, you can backup your text messages using SMS Backup & Restore and your apps, call logs, data, etc using MyBackup (both free in the play store).
Best of luck. Ask any questions you may have in the process.