Text Monitoring Dad

[sherrywilson44]

OH, sorry that won't work either..they don't have droids.

 

[Hugh Jass]

I think just the thought of doing this is just sick. Conversations between people shouldn't ever, ever be monitored by anyone unless it's matters of national security. If you think you're having a hard time trusting them, just wait till they find out that your spying on them. Good luck ever getting them to trust YOU.

If my parents did this to me I'd disown them completely. Not because I have anything to hide, but it's my business is MY business, and as a teen they deserve this right IMO. My parents ALWAYS respected my personal life and because of this I'm much closer to them.

 

[Backnblack]

I believe we have gotten off topic here.

We might need to add this subject to the list of things not to be discussed on the Forum.

 

[christim]

Yep 2 daughters. Need to monitor texts. Anyone know how, from my Droid of course.

This one is easy. Sit them down and let them know that you are trusting them to use cell phones in a reasonable manner. Also let them know that sometimes unomonitored conversations can get out of hand and lead to "issues". Tell them you are paying for their phone and the optio0ns are either texting is disabled and not payed for or their phone logs are subject to review. If the web site logs the fact a text occurred then the text should still exist on the phone. This way all parties know what to expect and what the rules are. They may not want you "listening in" but you also don't have to provide the tools they use for communicating either.

As a parent we never had to resort to that, the kids didn't have cell phones until the youngest was a senoir in high school. Our number one job was to get them to age 18...in one piece

 

[KZIWarrior]

I believe we have gotten off topic here.

We might need to add this subject to the list of things not to be discussed on the Forum.

I was just thinking that I've seen this at least a few other times and I know at least once for sure where the thread ended in suspended accounts and was closed... it's as volatile as politics (and essentially is political in nature).

 

[Hugh Jass]

I believe we have gotten off topic here.

We might need to add this subject to the list of things not to be discussed on the Forum.

I was just thinking that I've seen this at least a few other times and I know at least once for sure where the thread ended in suspended accounts and was closed... it's as volatile as politics (and essentially is political in nature).

I think it's much more volatile than politics, more like Nitroglycerin because it involves morality and ethics directly. =-/

 

[kmkings311]

I have to agree w/ many in that monitoring their text is not healthy for you or your kids. I understand safety yadayadayada and yes I have a kid. But, do you listen to your kids calls on the other line when they are on? Do you follow them to and from school/mall/gas station/bathroom. I'm not going to turn this into a morals/life lesson post...but c'mon....

If texting is that big of concern, cancel it. In reality, there is no REAL benefit (or reason) to have texting. I use it a ton but my life will not end w/o out, neither will theirs.

 

[KZIWarrior]

I believe we have gotten off topic here.

We might need to add this subject to the list of things not to be discussed on the Forum.

I was just thinking that I've seen this at least a few other times and I know at least once for sure where the thread ended in suspended accounts and was closed... it's as volatile as politics (and essentially is political in nature).

I think it's much more volatile than politics, more like Nitroglycerin because it involves morality and ethics directly. =-/

That's true... there's very little morality or ethics (left) in politics :rofl3: (couldn't resist:icon_ devil

 

[Backnblack]

Let's get back to the OP topic....

 

[Vulcan1600]

I think just the thought of doing this is just sick. Conversations between people shouldn't ever, ever be monitored by anyone unless it's matters of national security. If you think you're having a hard time trusting them, just wait till they find out that your spying on them. Good luck ever getting them to trust YOU.

If my parents did this to me I'd disown them completely. Not because I have anything to hide, but it's my business is MY business, and as a teen they deserve this right IMO. My parents ALWAYS respected my personal life and because of this I'm much closer to them.

It's time for me to jump in here. I am a parent, I have 5 lines on the account, one is my 15 yr. old, my wife, and my daughter and her husband. My daughter and her husband pay their chunk of the bill, so I don't give two craps what their texting content are. My 15 yr. old loves to text, he doesn't pay the bill, he lives under our roof, and he knows that at any time he is subject to random reading of his text messages if he leaves his phone laying around. He also knows the other option is to have text messaging blocked. So, as long as he's on his toes and deletes his inbox/outbox he is fine. Once he gets a job, pays room and board, gets his own car and insurance, and wants to stay on our plan, then random text message searches stop. It is called being a parent. We're the meanest, most rotten people in the world, and we set rules and guidelines. The O.P. is not out of line, and I applaud him and others who posted similar responses.

 

[TorchOne]

Spend more time with them...and turn off the phone!

...and tell them to invite their friends over and actually TALK to them!

 

[sockmess]

Not sure what kind of phone your daughters have since you didn't say, but if you can connect their phones to a computer you should be able to install spyware into them that will allow to even listen in on conversations. I think 20/20 did a story on this years ago, i will see if i can find it.
not sure how embedding work here but heres a go...

[video=youtube;uCyKcoDaofg]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uCyKcoDaofg[/video]

 

[tdog7879]

Im not sure about how to monitor there text but if you get the app called phone my pc you can watch everything they do on the computer....works great

Whoaaaaa.....

That was way off topic.....lol

not sure how that off topic but off you feel like your kids are doing something that there not suppose to be doing them this will work....i have a14 year old daughter..you have to have some trust in them but it is good to check on them every now and then to make sure there not doing stuff that they should not be doing...also a quick way to check there text is just by saying let me see your phone

 

[drizzy]

how do i take pic that was sent via txt and save it in gallery?

 

[amb4582]

In no way did I mean for this to become a debate over parenting styles. One of my biggest biggest pet peeves, at work and in my personal life, is arguing over differing opinions. No ONE answer is correct in this situation; it depends on the person and the circumstances.