Closest app I can think of is SeekDroid. It allows you to see the call log of the phone, can lock the device, wipe the device, etc. all from your computer. I use it just in case I lose my phone as it will show me the location by activating GPS remotely.
Want there also a different computer system that let monitor lap droid or something? I'll go look for it and come back
What about just using latitude on the google maps it's already on the phone to begin with... If you can what phone is he using because of you can go back to google maps 4.2 you don't need his permission for an updated location you simply press refresh and it'll do it.
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