FoxKat as always your response was well formulated, masterfully explained, and thought provoking. I have to say though if you do have or will have kids, I feel sorry for them if they ever ask why they can't have a cookie before dinner. I feel your response would render a blank expression followed quickly by a vast flow of tears
:rofl3: Well, I appreciate the complement...I think! :icon_eek: (just kidding!)
As always I try to provide the best possible explanation for the questions posed and the most relevant information when troubleshooting, so as to eliminate as much of what I can determine isn't the cause of failures and get to the root of the problem. I am no different than most here and judging from your volume of postings I have every reason to believe you approach every post from the same perspective. There are countless names of members here who shine as supporting and compassionate, and it's a testament to the people who run this forum. Freedom of speech is here, but with a clear and demonstrated level of respect for others.
What we have here is a very devoted community, committed to enhancing and supporting the user experience for all. I've been on MANY a forum (or user's group) over the last couple decades, sometimes just watching and listening to get a feel for the "environment" and in most cases I've left before anyone really knew I was there. In other cases, I've tried to make a difference but the forum moderators and administrators have lost control so badly that the entire threads get hijacked by trolls and flaming, leaving the OPs and their concerns completely clouded from view in a mass of free-for-all mosh-pit.
There have been some really disturbing threads on some of the "other" forums lately that are a perfect example of this lack of control, and as a result some of the developers (and even Moderators) have gone public on those forums expressing their frustration and announcing their intent to disassociate themselves from that forum. Some have come over here where they feel the community we provide is far more productive and simply a nice place to be. We should be proud of what we have and continue to head in that direction with force.
As for the son...he's 9 and he's a warm, loving, compassionate, empathetic and well-adjusted little geek! He's a high-functioning Asperger's child with an IQ in the 130s (so far), and although he deals with some social and sensory issues he's beautiful, intelligent, and a wonderful son. Still, all I have to say is One, Two, and before I get to Three whatever he's doing or not doing that I'm not happy with stops. He's also reached a level where he realizes that tears only make him feel worse, so for him they're a waste of energy. Oh yeah, there's the blank stare, and there's the attempts to "reason" why his way is better, or why I and his mother should relent, but in the end he knows his boundaries are not moving and the discomfort of changing from what he was doing to what we want him to do is soon forgotten.
My wife is undergoing Chemotherapy for Breast cancer after a double-mastectomy in December, and my son has become a very good caregiver as well. We are truly blessed.
And we are truly blessed to have members like you and others on this forum too. Please remain and continue to do all the good you do.