First, once you root your phone successfully and flash SPRecovery, make sure to make a full nandroid backup of your stock, rooted state. You will thank yourself for this later!
I would personally recommend a stable ROM to start out with, such as Bugless Beast. The latest BB v0.6.2.1 is very stable, and is fast and easy to learn. (Every ROM is different, and there is a LOT of personal opinion involved, so you will be the only one who will be able to say what is "best"...) There are lots of options in BB, but they don't overwhelm you and most don't have the potential to do MUCH damage if you experiment.
A couple words of advice: always make a nandroid backup before a flash, either of a kernel or of a ROM. That way, you'll always have a stable state to revert to just in case you break something.
Do you mean that you flashed the recovery-only sbf? Did you "catch the boot"? Or do you mean that you flashed the stock, rooted ROM using SPRecovery?
Once your screen goes black preparing for another reboot, hold X immediately, and you should boot into recovery. If you boot into stock recovery, SPRecovery didn't stick, possibly because you missed the boot the first time. If you boot into SPRecovery, you're golden to flash a stock, rooted ROM.
See if you can boot into recovery BEFORE you flash anything else, and do a factory reset if possible. **If you're not connected to RSDLite**... remove your battery immediately. Put it back in and try to boot into recovery (hold down power + X while booting up, until you see the moto M)...
Try to get your phone to boot normally by any means to allow your phone to charge. ***You MUST not try to flash anything with a drained battery.***
yeah, i did a factory reset and it is still stuck. it brings me to the welcome to droid screen, but still no battery. thinking that i have killed my phone!
Even though it looks bad...can you keep your Droid booted long enough to charge it? The light at the end of the tunnel here is a full / charged battery... that would allow you to boot back into your bootloader and flash the CORRECT file this time. You may even need to flash a full sbf, but we'll worry about that if the recovery-only sbf fails...
Don't give up! I sent this thread to furbearingmammal, so hopefully he will be able to weigh in shortly... you might want to also contact an administrator to request this thread be moved into the rescue squad section altogether. Cerealkiller is gold to DF: Droid Forum - Verizon Droid & the Motorola Droid Forum - View Profile: cereal killer (and he's also online now)