now that i found my issue.. i feel stupid.
Here is how you get themes to install:
1.) Settings --> UD Settings --> Extras --> Themes
pick your theme and install it, just wait for the popup box to go away
2.) From your list of apps, choose the Theme Chooser app and do it.
I dont know how I missed this before...
regarding the force close on status bar... mine did that after i messed with the status bar changes... i put everything back to defaults and rebooted, and now no issues.