So I figured it out yesterday but I'll answer your questions first.
It's Exchange 2k3 and is hosted via my work. There are multiple iPhones (eww apple) that work and I think I have the first droid at the company.
Anyway, I called Motorola yesterday and explained how my droid was able to sync my calendar from work, but was not recieving the contacts or e-mail. He directed me to article 39440 on their FAQ @
https://motorola-global-portal.custh...C1/r_id/138858.
It would seem the exchange app that comes with the droid doesn't fully support passwords for mobile devices. I changed the settings per that FAQ and e-mail started to appear...why it would send calendar info but not e-mail is beyond me, but that's the bandaid until they decide to upgrade their application.