Random slowdowns and crashes

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I've had this phone since September. It's been okay. I love the tech specs, the camera, the screen, the apps, the look, and pretty much everything. But when I open messaging and it takes 10+ seconds and glitches out on a regular basis, I get pissed. Or when my facebook app randomly crashes, or my camera app. I've rooted, restored, rerooted, and done pretty much everything. It doesn't help. I love android, I really do. But it's too glitchy. Even the new Droid X2 lagged a bit when I played with it in the store. Does anyone else have this problem? Because I am really contemplating getting the iPhone 4. I played with it in the VZW store the other day and it was just.. snappy. It just works. And I love that. Anyone have suggestions before I abandon android?