So I used the "quick profiles" app to make profiles for work, home, etc and now my SMS notifications are silent. Notification ringtone is still default droid, and box to set notification volume as incoming call volume is checked (and at full volume). Call volume and ringtone is correct. It doesn't even play each sound when I pull up the notifications ringtone thing.
Any ideas? Oh, the "quick profiles" app has been uninstalled.