As for the N1 over Incredible the only reason I would choose the N1 is the fact that it gets its' updates directly from Google. No waiting for 2.2 or 2.x to be rebaked prior to distribution whether OTA or via local download/PC. So in that sense yes the N1 is superior to the Incredible.
OG Droid w/ Pete's GPA16 w/ stock Kernel using auto OC script. (retired)
LG G2X w/ rooted 2.3.3 leak.
It's OK for your Droid to be different. Just be supportive and reassuring and it will do just fine. It's when you or other people point at it or mock it for being different is when its' feelings get hurt. Just show it unconditional love regardless of its' differences and it will in turn reciprocate that love and loyalty.
Stock, rooted FroYo baby.
With that said.... it will be in time rooted as well... then you can run what ever flavor of android you like with the super hardware specs to boot.